When a journey to having babies doesn’t come so easy

There has recently been a lot of controversy around IVF babies and what some people (aka D&G) classify ‘selectively purchasing’ your children. Our Miami TLC Associate – Joanna Navarrete wanted to share her difficult IVF journey because as most people recognise the path to having children is not always easy and IVF may be a necessary solution for some families to fulfill their dreams. Please note here at Twin Love Concierge we help all families of multiples and do not use the term natural vs IVF, we have open arms to everyone that has Twin/Triplets/Quads and more.

Here Joanna’s shares her emotional story:

A broken heart
For as long as I could remember, I wanted to be a mom more than anything in the world. I knew that when I found my person we were going to fall in love, get married and have a big family. I wanted to mirror my family, so I wanted three kids. I never cared if I was going to have boys or girls but secretly at least one girl to play dress up with because they could be so fun! I found my person 10 years ago in college. We eloped after a month and half and started our life together. I always had a plan to at least have a couple of years together without kids, to enjoy each other and travel and enjoy all the things you can’t do with a baby or two. And we did, we graduated college at the time, we traveled and we moved from Miami to Charlotte to Nashville.
Three years had passed and I wondered why I was not pregnant yet. I was not taking any precautions, I couldn’t figure out why it wasn’t happening. I researched, Googled and read every site, blog, and book imaginable and I came to the consensus that we needed to get on a schedule. A trying to conceive (TTC) schedule. A couple of months into it, it just felt like work, like an appointment that you had to pencil in. Definitely took the romance right out of the bedroom. With that, bring in frustration, inadequacy, hopelessness, and utter sadness that this was just not going to happen as easily as you thought at the beginning. So we decided to stop wasting time and go see a fertility specialist.
Reaching out for help
Studio by CarmenAfter researching the best in the city, they gave us our appointment and we instantly loved our doctor. We started with A LOT of testing and probing. They realized I had endometriosis and performed laparoscopic. We went through 2 cycles of intrauterine insemination (IUI) and we got pregnant on the second IUI. The pregnancy was miscarried at around 8 weeks. I felt empty. It was the loss of a being. Our being.
I had two more IUIs after that, until I just got fed up and I was over months and months of disappointment, the injections, the weekly visits to the doctor. We scheduled a visit with our doctor and told her we were done wasting time, we wanted to try IVF. September 23rd was a very exciting day we heard a heartbeat! Out of the two embryos we transferred one took. Her heartbeat was strong. I finally felt I could breathe! After almost a year of surgery of endometriosis, four IUIs, one miscarriage, and one IVF cycle, we were pregnant. It was one of the most surreal feelings. It had been a hard year but we made it.
The pregnancy was a healthy. No complications, just the usual discomforts, but we welcomed our beautiful baby girl May 1st, 2010 for my birthday! Our daughter weighed 7lbs 3ozs measuring 20 inches long. She was perfect and she was healthy.
More heartbreak

Fast forward a little over a year, mid 2011 we went back to Nashville (we moved to Miami to have our little girl January of the prior year) to do a Frozen Embryo Transfer (FET) with the embryos we had frozen from the IVF cycle. The male and female embryos we transferred did not take. As we are starting to look into a new IVF cycle here in Miami, and trying to get everything lined up for early the following year after the holidays, I start feeling a bit off end of January. I was pregnant with no extreme measure. I couldn’t believe it. After getting blood-work done routinely after about a week, the HCG levels were not going up. They said it was a chemical pregnancy and that nothing ever formed. It was another miscarriage, but very early on but then turned into an ectopic pregnancy that required a shot dissolve what was left.

After starting with all the medication and injections our third IVF cycle started to take a turn for the worst. I was not stimulating enough eggs good enough for retrieval. They have to be a certain size to qualify for retrieval. and I had very few, so they left a voicemail that they were cancelling the IVF cycle. This was on a Monday and I heard the voice message after the clinic had closed that afternoon. I looked at my husband and I was so frustrated. He said ‘lets not stop taking the injections, we will call in the morning and see if we can do an IUI cycle’. I looked at him and thought this is the reason you are my reason. And that night, he gave me the shots and we called the doctor that morning, he warned us that we could end up not only twins possibly triplets or more, we said we would take the chance. At this point, it was a sane idea since there were not many eggs. That Thursday, only 3 days later, I go in again to see how my eggs are doing and the doctor said, she couldn’t believe it but just like that my eggs were developing great and I had a lot more, and that she definitely didn’t want to do IUI because I would end up like OctoMom. We were back on IVF.

 

What we were hoping for

Two weeks later we go in to see a heartbeat and I am as nervous as I can be. I lay down and of course, the doctor here in Miami starts to examine me and she asks so how many eggs did you transfer, I said two, why you don’t see one, she says I see two. I think I went deaf! What do you mean TWO?! She turns the screen and she showed us two sacs and two heartbeats!!IMG_1498

On June 17, 2013, at 37 weeks through cesarian section, we welcomed our beautiful, perfect, healthy twins. My son weighed 5lbs 2ozs and my daughter, weighing 5lbs 3oz both measuring 18.5 inches.

Our journey has had so many ups and downs, but I wouldn’t change any of it! It has taught us so much about ourselves, about each other and about our marriage. But most of all it has taught us faith. Faith in that we are stronger than we give ourselves credit for. No matter how hard all of this has been, it was so worth it. It gave us 3 amazing children that we wanted so badly and that there is hope for couples that want a family but may not be as easy.

 

A reason to help others

IMG_1680This is part of the reason why I became a Prepartum Associate with Twin Love Concierge. I want to help families with multiples and for them to know that even though it may be hard at first, the reward is so much greater. With the right tools and techniques you can navigate through the first stages of your new life with confidence that even though we all feel like we don’t know what we are doing at first, that we will strive to be and do the best we can to the best of our abilities. And most importantly that we are not alone in this crazy thing called twin’parenthood.

We all learn everyday and our children will be our greatest teachers.

 

[author] [author_image timthumb=’on’]https://twinloveconcierge.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/0068.jpeg [/author_image] [author_info]Joanna Navarrete, TLC’s Prepartum Associate and mother to three beautiful children, one girl and a set of fraternal boy/girl twins. Born in Tegucigalpa, Honduras, has lived in Miami for more than 17 years. Joanna is experienced in both retail maternity and baby gear. She embraced motherhood by instilling herself in every newborn facet she could find. Between classes, books, blogs and mommy groups interaction she developed a broader sense, which helped her with not only her own family, but others that asked for multiples support. Vetting all types of baby gear, from strollers to pacifiers, she immersed herself in finding practical fashionable functionality. You can contact her at joanna@twinloveconcierge.com for more information on our Miami services.[/author_info] [/author]