In a previous article entitled ‘Separate Time With Twins’ we discussed how you can find ways to spend quality time with each of them individually. Individual time with your children comes with its own values and lessons that you might not be able to impart when they’re always together. But while this is true, it’s also true that certain values are best learned together. Psychology Today explains that common goals “lead to child-focused shared decisions”. Here are three ways twins can learn good values together.
Find a Sport They Are Both Interested In
One of the advantages of having two children of the same exact age and, in some cases, physicality is that they can start at the same level of any sport of their choosing. Apart from the fact that you’ll only need to supervise one activity, which saves you time, putting them in the same sport is also a good way to teach your children very practical lessons in teamwork. Twins have a natural affinity for working in the same team, as USA Today reminds us in their feature on how Wayne Bryan raised the now iconic doubles tennis legends, Bob and Mike Bryan. Together, these brothers have bagged more than 100 doubles tennis titles, and it shouldn’t come as a surprise. Twins tend to be able to read each other, which is a fantastic advantage for soccer, basketball, football, hockey, doubles tennis, or really any game that will require them to work together.
Navigating New Environments
These same principles can be applied to the twins’ academic studies. While enrolled in the same school and studying the same lessons, the twins can look to one another for help. Unlike most children coming to a new school, twins will instantly have a connection with someone. As they naturally fall into their own academic strengths and weaknesses, twins can provide help where the other falls short. Just like in sports, twins can act as each other’s support system in school. The value of support, especially in unknown environments, will benefit them in later years.
Charity Teaches Empathy
The natural bond of twins sometimes allows them to create their own world away from everything else. While this allows them to support each other, it’s not enough to create well-rounded, emphatic adults. Twins also need to be taught that life outside of themselves has value, and that not everyone is as lucky as they are to have someone who supports them all the time. This level of empathy is best taught early on, and one of the best ways to do so is through charity work. There are plenty of charities that do not shy away from the world’s harsh realities but at the same time provide a hopeful framework from which your twins can draw emphatic inspiration. In an article by Save the Children titled ‘How You Can Help’ they reported that 6 million fewer children die today compared to 1990 due to foreign aid. Many charities are known for hosting fun and creative events like bike-rides and community runs to raise awareness and gain funding to address certain issues. Allowing your twins to know about the real state of the world – and more importantly, teaching them that they can do something about it – is perhaps the best lesson in empathy that a parent may provide.
About the author
Sarah Fields is a mother and writer who has spent the past years blogging about parenting. She believes that the children need to be taught good values from an early age, and hopes that her articles reach out to parents. When she is not writing she is looking after her own children.