Our journey to having twins began on Christmas Day 2015. I snuck out of bed early to take a pregnancy test, and after seeing the 2 lines, I quickly wrapped it up and put it under the Christmas tree for hubby (Adam) to open. When it came to opening the gift, he was completely surprised and ecstatic! It made for an extra special Christmas Day, sharing our news with our immediate families.
I went off to the doctors in the first week of January and booked a dating scan for when I would be 7 weeks pregnant. After experiencing the heartbreak of a miscarriage only 4 months earlier, we decided that Adam and our son (who was 18mo at the time) would come along for support. When my name was called, we went into the room and my heart raced. I laid down on the table, hoping only to hear a strong heartbeat, as the radiographer started ultra-sounding. She was concentrating hard, but wasn’t saying much. Eventually she asked if I would be comfortable having an internal, and I immediately questioned if there was something wrong, while Adam squeezed my hand. To our surprise complete shock, she replied, “things look good, it just looks like there’s 2 in there”. Adam and I looked at each other in disbelief. All at once, we were picking our jaws up off the floor, bursting out laughing, and saying, “Oh sh*t!”, “Oh my god! Oh my god!” I raced off to empty my bladder for the additional ultrasound and then it was confirmed, we were having fraternal twins!!
Telling everyone there’s 2
We finished up and slowly walked out to the car. We were absolutely dumbfounded. Twins didn’t run in the family, and it hadn’t even crossed our minds that this could be a possibility. We sat in the car and started making phone calls, the first to my Mum of course, who was very excited! We then spoke with my Dad who was also in shock, and just laughed. My in-laws were very surprised but absolutely thrilled, and our siblings and close friends were all in disbelief. Everyone had their own concerns and questions, ‘How are you going to sleep them? You’ll need 2 cots.’ ‘How are you going to fit 3 car seats in your car?’ ‘You’ll need a bigger pram!’ We were in shock, so we did what we did best (pre-kids) and we went out for dinner to celebrate.
Over the weeks that followed we were a bundle of mixed emotions. Every time we said the word “twins” we paused and laughed. I tried very hard to stay focused on all the positives and the excitement that we were feeling, and not to switch to task mode to start getting things organised. There were so many thoughts going through my head. In moments of fear I would catch myself thinking, ‘why me?’, and then I’d feel guilty for feeling like that after our recent miscarriage, and when others were struggling around us. At other times I’d be over the moon at how blessed we were, and that our little family wouldn’t be so little, and in a matter of months! I would go crazy thinking about how we would cope and all the work that would be involved and the help we’d need. My heart would ache at the thought of not having any time for my little boy when the twins arrived, but explode with thoughts of him being a big brother to 2 siblings. I’d go to sleep wishing only to have 2 happy and healthy babies. I was both so excited but so nervous at the thought of how much our lives were about to change, it was an emotional rollercoaster.
Having twins has been our biggest challenge, but it has also been the best thing to happen to our family, and we couldn’t be happier! To anyone expecting twins, I would say, enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible and celebrate the miracle of growing 2 babies at once. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for being blessed twice and don’t let anyone dull your excitement. Try to stay calm and not let your thoughts and to-do lists overwhelm you, and if you need to, ask for help – you may as well get some practice in. Good luck on your journey! We wish you all the happiness and good health.
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Parenting Joys is about sharing candid everyday experiences of parenthood, and providing a space for parents to connect, share, learn, and grow. Simone, the face behind Parenting Joys, is the proud mum of their 3 year old boy and 1 year old boy / girl twins. She started Parenting Joys to share an insight into their life with 3 children aged 2 and under, to present a realistic side to parenthood, and to support other parents by sharing their journey. You can connect with Parenting Joys on their website or via Instagram.