When you’re planning for a new baby, there are so many things to think about.  It feels like the list is endless.  There is one question, though, that most couples completely overlook: How will we find time together as a couple?

 Making time for your relationship with your partner will not only keep you both happy and refreshed during those exhausting first few months, but it will also teach your child what a healthy relationship looks like.  Below are five simple tips for making time as a couple after baby arrives.

Find 1-2 reliable sitters ASAP!

Once you’re in the busy early parenting days, you probably won’t have the time or energy to search for a sitter.  Instead, look on Nextdoor, Care.com or ask around to find and interview a few reliable sitters before baby arrives.  This way, once the time comes, you’ll be able to quickly find someone you trust to watch your little one.

Take a walk

This is probably the easiest way to get couple time, especially when you have a newborn.   Go on as many walks together (using the stroller or a baby carrier) as the weather will allow.  Not only will you benefit from the exercise and fresh air, but you and your partner will have time to talk.

Try to have a device-free dinner every night

In the beginning, this might mean wearing your sleeping baby while you eat or eating around when baby decides to nap, but it’s a perfect time to put on some music, focus on each other and discuss the day.

Plan a weekly at-home date

This one works out best once baby is going to bed early at night and will sleep for a few solid hours at a time (usually around 3.5 months). Choose one night each week to have take-out and drinks together after baby goes down for the evening.

Join a gym together

Nowadays even the most barebone gyms have a place inside where you can leave your little one for an hour or so while you work out.  This is one of the cheapest and easiest ways to get kid-free time together!  No need to do an intense workout.  Go on a “treadmill walk” together or just sit on the stretching mats and talk.

               If you ever start to feel guilty about leaving your child, remember that taking care of yourselves is one of the most important steps to being the best parents you can be!

About the author

Allison Merriman MA, TLC’s San Francisco Associate, is a licensed Literacy Specialist as well as mother to 3.5 year old Evelyn and 1.5 year old twins, Abby and Jack. Her passion has always been working to support young children, beginning as a camp counselor and nanny (to identical twin boys!) and continuing on to become an elementary school teacher and Literacy Specialist, coaching parents and educators on how to best teach children to develop a love for reading, writing and language. You can contact Alli at alli@twinloveconcierge.com for more information about our services in San Francisco.